I took my first Access Bars class almost two years ago and the changes in my inner and outer world continue to amaze me. I realized how dramatically and magically the tools work when I visited my family in Brazil a year ago. Now, if you know anything about family patterns you know that the dynamics gets activated around family gatherings. :-) In the past my father's certain remarks would land on me very heavily. It would immediately create a reaction and a big frowning face lasting for a while, and in some cases years. After countless Enlightening books and seminars and specially Breath-work (Circular Breathing) I learned to dance with emotions, express myself, and breathe heaviness out. This time around I had a new tool to play with and it surprised me. During the first family dinner in my last trip home my father started his comments on a topic that created in me the familiar gut reaction and inner contraction. I said nothing. Remembering my old lessons I knew that expressing my thoughts would only spoil the family dinner and perpetrate a dysfunctional cycle. Few hours later, still charged and contracted, I remembered Access Consciousness questions - new tools!! I asked "What stupidity am I using to create the upset I am choosing?" and just like magic I felt lighter immediately and the charge was gone! Still stunned, I heard my insane mind arguing…"wait a minute, if I let it go I can't make him wrong anymore. I am right and his wrong!" And bang!! I nailed it! I was unlocking an old pattern of wanting to be right all the time. As crazy as it sounds part of me wanted to keep the upset so I could continue to make him wrong and me right. As if holding on to the upset was a punishment for him! How insane was that? I wonder, How many of us are unconsciously holding on to upsets just to prove the righteousness of our point of view? How many of us, honestly, would rather be right than happy? How many of us don't know what to do but react or resist, do anger or rage, or suppress everything and do nothing? How many of us would like to choose something different? How about trying a new tool? What else is possible?